I was telling DD the other day that I feel foreign when I am in the
(Monkey and I saw
My big sister got married (for the 2nd time) in August of 2002. It was my second trip back to the
So I said, without really thinking and to no one in particular, “Oh, lemon, hmm, must be an American thing.”
And my new brother-in-law’s cousin that was sitting on the other side of my little sister, said nastily (and rather unfairly, I thought), “If you don’t like it here, why don’t you go back to
And I was beaten. I should have had a go at her and called her all kinds of nasty words (I have loads stored up for occasions such as these) but instead I apologised and explained that I had not meant to cause any offence. That was it: that was the moment I realised that I had no idea what was going on in the
The next day my little brother-in-law explained to me that things had become different since 9/11, and that people really believed the rhetoric about “if you are not with us then you are with the terrorists,” and anything can and will be misconstrued as being un-American. And I had thought Joseph McCarthy was dead.